Here's what she asked:
"What if you “think” you are content with where you are in life …but something still feels “off”? I have an adoring husband, 3 awesome boys that keep me very busy, I am an RN with a very good job…(no longer work the floor as it was too much with such a busy family!), we sold our large home last year and downsized to have a lower mortgage, and now 2 of my 3 kids can walk to school….such a huge blessing for my sanity!!…and now….things have calmed down, “all is well” and I just feel off….I have been gaining weight, feel tired most of the time, enjoy being at home…not running all the time to activities…(which at times I admit makes me feels guilty)…I am struggling with motivation to exercise etc. I feel as if I am on a “Merry-Go-Round”…laundry, dishes, figuring out what’s for dinner, kids homework…I feel like I am present in my life, but not enjoying my life right now…not sure if that makes any sense! I just wanted to see what your thoughts might be…"
Any number of things could be driving this "something is off" feeling. It could be biochemical - like hormone fluctuations, or thyroid issues. Could be diet-related. I find the quality of the nutrition I'm consuming greatly impacts my emotional life. (Sometimes a good "Stress B-Complex with C" vitamin picks my mood up right off the floor!)
She mentioned backing off on exercise - that will certainly contribute to feelings of lethargy. And to weight gain.
It could be *unresolved issues from the past coming to the forefront again now that so many of her previous distractions (a demanding job, a bigger house to clean and pay for, lots of carpooling to run) have been eliminated. Busyness has a way of hiding our true issues and feelings from us.
(*Those could be childhood issues with her parents or siblings. Or body-issues. Could be a lack of desire or intimacy in the bedroom. Lots of possible things here.)
Or maybe boredom is simply settling in now that those tasks are off her plate. She may be relieved to have those daily pressures gone, yet at the same time feel a lack of "purpose" now. Maybe she just needs to take up sewing or gardening. Take on a community project or a 5K run. Start writing a blog or a novel. Sign up for a Bible study or a Zumba class. Or find a cause to champion in Christ.
Then again, the problem is very likely to be Perfect on Paper Syndrome. I will blog about that tomorrow. But in the meantime, can you too relate?
Have you had seasons when something just felt vaguely but unmistakably off? Got any advice to offer on dealing with that? Chime in the comments if you want to talk about it.