tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post2440825044336204542..comments2023-11-02T10:26:12.388-04:00Comments on Rachel Olsen: Emotional AffairsRachel Olsenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14666181671944102358noreply@blogger.comBlogger68125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-834554464281228202011-06-22T11:50:59.043-04:002011-06-22T11:50:59.043-04:00Hey all, I don't know why I didn't think o...Hey all, I don't know why I didn't think of this book earlier, It just dawned on my after anonymous ( patiently waiting) wrote about living alone first your not, Jesus lives with you and second I have a book that is absolutely ( I think) beautiful. Its called " Falling in love with Jesus, by Dee Brestin and Kathy Troccoli. And its about the love we have with and the love Jesus has for us. shoot I just may read it again. A definite love story if there ever was one. <br /><br /> Hey y'all how are the rest of you doing.Connecting to the soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17880943173532146894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-22206871563003677342011-06-22T10:56:41.419-04:002011-06-22T10:56:41.419-04:00WOW! It's amazing how many people are effected...WOW! It's amazing how many people are effected by emotional as well as physical affairs! Sometimes I think that the sanctity of marriage has been lost in this "new world" we live in. It scares me to death!<br /><br />I am single. I have been divorced now for 7 years and am having a very hard time trusting enough to begin again! I've only been on about 4 dates in those 7 years and well..I'm still sitting here single, but it's okay...I am way to comfortable being alone! You know...if you don't get close, you won't get hurt! I know God does not want me to live completely alone (as my children are grown and have their own families) I am trying to break down the walls to begin dating, but wouldn't it be easier with someone I already once knew? <br /><br />SEE...I AM that other woman that is on the receiving end of THOSE PHONE CALLS...THOSE EMAILS...THOSE REQUESTS TO MEET UP! with an EX Boyfriend that since I became single- has called, texted, emailed at different periods throughout the years! NO...I have NOT met him...I keep putting him off for this reason or that! I know without a shadow of a doubt that he will not get a divorce, for any reason! But I also know that they go through stages of unhappiness (both of them) and I am always the one he calls to talk to, and most of the time, it becomes inappropriate after a few conversations! I don't like it...I do like talking to him and wouldn't mind being his friend (someone he can vent to, come to for advise) but I don't want to be the other woman! I don't ever want to come between him and his wife...EVER! But I don't stop talking to him! I don't know why! <br /><br />I do know that...because of my spiritual relationship with Jesus Christ...I would NEVER cross that intimacy threshhold! But it's obvious that an emotional one can be just as bad...as it will make his mind wander away from his wife! <br /><br />Here's what really hurts.."ME": He knows I have trusting issues with men...when he's calling me, what is he thinking of me? Does he think that I have no self respect that I'll simply meet up with him? What does that say about me? When I step back and think about it, I feel like he's disrespecting not only his wife, but me as well. I guess because I don't have MEN that I talk to and because it's comfortable talking with him (until it gets uncomfortable) I feel it's no big deal! <br /><br />Thank you for writing about this topic...I was stunned when I started reading it...I thought...do you know me? I don't want to be that other person, I really don't! I want my own love! One that GOD himself sends me...for ME! I already know what I have to do...it was more than a blessing to see your blog (this was the VERY FIRST TIME I've ever read your blog as well!) God works in mysterious ways....doesn't he? I will do what God is telling my heart, my soul to do...and I will continue to work on my trust issues and wait on my SOUL MATE that he has prepared for me to meet....SOME DAY!!! In the mean time, I will have conversations with Jesus...when I feel lonely, rather than (you know who!)<br /><br />Much love in Christ!!<br /><br />...Patiently waitingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-79768273488340224342011-06-18T12:55:15.873-04:002011-06-18T12:55:15.873-04:00Good Morning to all, Rachel your blog continues to...Good Morning to all, Rachel your blog continues to minister to me even now days after I read and replied here. I know I can't go back and make things right with my first marriage- For two reasons, I have burned that bridge, and two I am now remarried. But the events of my past serve to remind me of the pain and hurt caused to all and how important it is for God to be head of the family. <br /><br />It wasn't until after I married a second time that I really begin to dig into God's Word to see what it said about marriage and how I as a rededicated Christian woman/wife should respond and react in my marriage. I try not to dwell on past mistakes that were made but try to remember what went wrong not to dwell but remind myself I need to put God first And my husband second, and search the scripture and pray over my marriage and my husband. There are times it is hard but remembering that my husband has feelings and is a man trying his best just like me levels the playing field. I remember what happened when God was not placed at the top. And I also see what happens when He is placed at the top. The circumstances may be the same-it's my reaction and response to them that's different. The praise and Glory Goes to God!Connecting to the soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17880943173532146894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-62027413391348637462011-06-18T12:11:37.657-04:002011-06-18T12:11:37.657-04:00I have had this on my mind for days and feel I mus...I have had this on my mind for days and feel I must respond. My wife of 13 years had an affair with a co-worker. Probably started with feelings similar to yours. Justifications similar to yours. You really have no idea of the longterm damage this action will impale on your family. <br />In short, after learning of the affair while she had divorce papers in her hand, it made more sense to me some of the arguments that had occurred in the past months. The act of this affair robbed energy and love from our home and our children. We indeed attempted to reconcile this and repair our marriage. <br />Months after this was exposed was still difficult in manys ways. Soo much trust had been broken. We compromised on our own values and did something out of character for ourselves. We took a trip to the wineries to enjoy a great day together and continue working out trying to put the affair into farther times in our past. We did not make plans for a designated driver as in the past in groups. We did have plans to not put ourselves into a position of driving but did not stick to them. We had a 3 mile trip to our destination and did not complete that trip. We were involved in an accident that thankfully involed no others but my wife who was currently removing her seatbelt at that very moment did not survive. <br />I can only guess when this all started that she felt she deserved and justified her actions in whatever way she did. <br />I assure you we could not have predicted the cost this would have in the ultimate end. It is a cost that lives with us daily and all that knew my wife. That loss continues in ways you cannot understand and be grateful for that. The affair also remains, 2 1/2 years after the accident, a painful event. Somehow the accident and challenges involved have been more easily accepted in the mind than the affair. <br />There are answers and things may not even work out the way some may prefer but I can assure you, the answer lies with trust in Jesus Christ and hopefully work from the partners in the marriage. Nothing good will arrive from the CHOICE for the affair. You are being fooled by cherry fellings right now never knowing the true cost of your actions. I am praying for your strength and guidance from Jesus. Do the right thing!! You do not understand the cost this will have in the future on all.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-63152482072214649302011-06-11T08:47:25.415-04:002011-06-11T08:47:25.415-04:00I just want to first "Thank" God to send...I just want to first "Thank" God to sending me to Prv31 almost a year ago. This devotional hit me so hard and I felt pushed by Him to do so and it has helped so much to read all the comments and feel the strength given by the words.<br /><br />Secondly, it is sad that we as women seem to tie so much of our self-worth up into what "men" think of us rather than what God knows of us and it leads us to render to temptation. As a mother of two beautiful (inside and out) girls I pray that the lessons God has taught me over since my husbands affair 5 years ago and my recent emotional affair that I can pass those on to my girls so they are confident in themselves and in the Word of God and to my son so he knows what is expected of a husband and for all three what is expected of a marriage.<br /><br />Thank you all and never underestimate that still small voice that is His. Please pray that the Lord will continue to give me strength to work through the issues in my marriage and save the wonderful family He gave to me.livingthruHim96noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-79170064118377597242011-06-10T08:51:45.502-04:002011-06-10T08:51:45.502-04:00I am new to blogging either.I am have been married...I am new to blogging either.I am have been married for three years now...and it has been a roller coaster.I am tempted to find comfort in another married man's arms.I have just gone through this devotion....and most the comments it hit me that my marrige is worth saving because that is what God expects of me.I want to work on my marriage and only God can help me achive the best out of my marriage.Forward ever backward never.Thobilehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16364343585697952094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-52528146063543447262011-06-08T23:44:51.084-04:002011-06-08T23:44:51.084-04:00My husband and I are in the restoration period of ...My husband and I are in the restoration period of our marriage after he was involved with a co-worker for 3 years. Before the affair, he pulled away emotionally from me because I nagged and criticized him, and he felt that I no longer loved him. At the same time, another woman began to lavishly pour all her attention and admiration on my husband. "lips like honey". When I first found out about the affair, I repented of my ungodly attitude, and the Lord gave me an overwhelming love for my husband, and took away the jealousy and anger I had toward him. Yet it took 3 years before my husband was able to break free of the emotional and physical entanglement of the affair with the other woman. He was entrenched in the lie of "being in love and having a soul mate". He became a man that I nor his family knew. In the meantime, the Lord told me to trust and to wait. What a difficult time.... my emotions were all over the place... many friends did not understand and urged me to divorce. The Lord showed me that the most important issue to Him was that my husband be restored first to his relationship with the Lord, and that our marriage was second. My burden was for my husband to fall in love with God.... and that is what happened 1 year ago. My husband's eyes were opened and he saw the total deception of everything he had done. He repented and has become a man who wants to know the Lord with all his heart. We start each day with a simple prayer. There are still many emotional repercussions from the affair. I have some physical and emotional challenges that I have never faced before. But, the important thing is that the Lord is always faithful and always good, no matter what. I praise Him and give Him the glory first for delivering my husband from the snare of the enemy and secondly, from keeping our family and marriage from being destroyed. We are now in our 32nd year of marriage. I count every day as a gift from the Lord, a new day, a new beginning in HimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-83664834661282466172011-06-08T20:22:43.216-04:002011-06-08T20:22:43.216-04:00Thank you for your reply to my comments to your de...Thank you for your reply to my comments to your devo. A heavy load is finally off my back. Its like i found daddy god's ans after all these years. I am enlightened. Thank you for your ministry which have impacted women around the world. God led me in the library to pick up your book. Thank pro31 ministry. - jerica, singapore.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-43011633252223538162011-06-08T18:02:17.896-04:002011-06-08T18:02:17.896-04:00I see someone would like my blog address so here i...I see someone would like my blog address so here it is:<br />www.ilikethewayyoudo.blogspot.com<br />It started out as a craft/sewing blog but the 3rd year brought about much deeper thoughts and my coming out on my blog to those friends and family that didn't know about my experience.<br />It has been therapeutic to say the least. I plan on doing another blog post this week, I have alot on my mind after reading through Rachel's devo on P31. <br />And now, after reading so many other women's stories, I know that mine is one that needs to be told, since I'm convinced that God is using me to work that way.Kurtzhalshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09935965648532183731noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-4451057456040792222011-06-08T15:02:33.362-04:002011-06-08T15:02:33.362-04:00I too must confess. I married at age 19, my high ...I too must confess. I married at age 19, my high school sweetheart. It lasted approx. 18 months. I had started a new career path in EMS, a predominantly male world (high risk factor #1) it wasn't long until one particular guy, seemed to quickly fill all of those emotional voids that were not being met at home. And go figure, he was unhappy in his marriage too, so we just seemed to "click". Well, the next year was one that I am definitely not proud of. We both left our spouses, mine because I was not "happy" nor "in love with him any longer" and he the same. Unfortunately children were involved and hurt in the process. I feel so selfish for my actions and have the hardest time forgiving myself for my involvement in wrecking so many lives. You think you are so mature and smart at 21...wow, how immature I was (risk factor #2) I went on to marry the guy and 15 years later we are still together. I am very grateful that our relationship (through further ups and downs related to trust issues) has lasted. We both have a much stronger walk with God and have come a long way in our spiritual walk. I also realize that our relationship could have gone the other way, since it was built completely on the wrong foundation! So I do feel blessed because as the saying does go: the grass IS greener on the other side: on top of the septic tank! Fortunately it was just as green. However, I still struggle day to day with feelings for my ex and what could have been and would the day come that we get back together. I have seen his picture on Facebook and it is hard to not wonder to it on occasion. So once again, I have made a declaration this past Sunday night: I have asked forgiveness, prayed for my heart to be set free from my past relationship and to move forward. So I can't tell you how much confirmation I had when I read your devotion on "soul mates". Your / God's timing was perfect. I have just struggled so much with forgiveness, forgetting and rationalizing who is my true soul mate. Thanks for the opportunity to express these feelings and move forward. I try to witness to women, when I hear they are just not "happy" and are looking to leave. Marriage is hard work and the newness does wear off, but you must hang in there as you go through different stages in your marriage, some are easier than others.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-22849589986229991532011-06-08T14:13:19.387-04:002011-06-08T14:13:19.387-04:00I have found myself there many times when my husba...I have found myself there many times when my husband didnt give me what i need. But then i would remind my self that God is not the author of confusion and that he does everything in decincy and order. its hard when i feel neglected but i have to remind myself who do i want to please.Real Time Prayershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17695893339438546368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-44897600143371169772011-06-08T12:21:25.159-04:002011-06-08T12:21:25.159-04:00God knew I needed to read this, and I needed it no...God knew I needed to read this, and I needed it now. I have been married for 11 years now. While we have our good times, a lot goes unnoticed and makes things hard at times too. I went through an affair that happened 5 years ago. I did tell my husband, and we are still together now. Things are easier, but we still deal with feelings that affair caused. I wish I could go back & change things. Now there is a friend of ours, who is like a dad to me & my husband both. We both grew up with absent fathers. So we are emotionally involved with this other man. I personally have felt a little more closer connection with him, and we have discussed that since he feels the same way.<br />I thank you SO much for posting this. I have prayed for God to intervene, because I can not do this on my own. But I can do all things & get through all things because I have Gods strength.<br />This was just an eye opener to me to be more careful & watchful before things go further. I refuse to bow to the enemys hold & this turn into a physical affair.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-21736377185740863182011-06-08T10:32:56.486-04:002011-06-08T10:32:56.486-04:00Amy , when you said Run to Him I immediately saw a...Amy , when you said Run to Him I immediately saw a larger then live being with a beard wearing white and standing there with arms wide open just waiting for us- <br /><br /> DebiConnecting to the soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17880943173532146894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-71017397371115610252011-06-08T10:25:06.957-04:002011-06-08T10:25:06.957-04:00I can attest to the fact that there is no peace wh...I can attest to the fact that there is no peace when we are outside the will of God. Relationships are no different. When it starts in sin and we choose to continue in it despite the Holy Spirit's nudgings to run away from it, we can't expect it all to fall into place and experience abundant life. This isn't God's best for us, and what a shame it is when we settle for less than that. I say we RUN...as fast as we can. Run to Him instead, and see what He has in store. It'll blow us away, every time.Amy M.http://www.makemeamary.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-49675517078324555412011-06-08T10:10:51.231-04:002011-06-08T10:10:51.231-04:00I have a question, if we all have had this bug cra...I have a question, if we all have had this bug crawl under our skin thinking other men are better what steps can we take to preventing this from happening in the first place- is it something "we're" not doing or something that sneaks in ever so slightly?Connecting to the soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17880943173532146894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-14627821798146108742011-06-08T09:59:04.725-04:002011-06-08T09:59:04.725-04:00There was a time when I thought another man was gr...There was a time when I thought another man was great to get along with and gave me praises that my husband did not. (My husband still does not praise me.) However, after confiding in friends, I was able to distance myself and pray out of the situation. It took about a week, but since it was not totally involved, it was easier to say that the other guy was like my brother.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11617048214802352285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-67782629784750890872011-06-08T02:51:57.371-04:002011-06-08T02:51:57.371-04:00She should cut all communication with the man, tha...She should cut all communication with the man, that's the only way to avoid any more danger.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-60143187748598063172011-06-08T02:39:45.169-04:002011-06-08T02:39:45.169-04:00I haven't had this happen to me - but preventi...I haven't had this happen to me - but prevention is the key! So glad for this devotion as it keeps this threat at the forefront of my mind!Meaghanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10387123126815584723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-4337005205678703462011-06-08T00:48:57.119-04:002011-06-08T00:48:57.119-04:00No one should ever think their marriage is invinci...No one should ever think their marriage is invincible. After over 30 years of mostly happy marriage, I felt myself falling into this trap last summer. Thanks be to God, it did not escalate into a full blown affair. In His grace I was able to confess to two accountability partners. God answered our prayers by moving this man to a different work site. I kept in touch for a time after that, but after an inappropriate text made me very uncomfortable I once again tried to establish a boundary with him. He got angry with me and broke it off by text.<br /><br />It has been a month since that last text. During that time the Lord has shown me that I was susceptible because this other man was speaking my primary love languages, which my husband does not. Last week I started a reading group with some of my girfriends to go through Gary Chapman's "Five Love Languages", and am committed anew to learning to speak my husband's love languages.<br /><br />Lesson learned, don't become prideful and believe it can't happen to you. Satan just focuses like a laser beam on our tiniest weaknesses, and wants to exploit them. Watch and pray, and develop some close friends that can hold you accountable and hold you up in prayer when you are feeling tempted.<br /><br />As always, Rachel, thank you for allowing God to use you to minister to so many with the gifts He's given you!susancnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-52190905770023307822011-06-08T00:42:28.936-04:002011-06-08T00:42:28.936-04:00I am thankful God never let any of mine go further...I am thankful God never let any of mine go further than daydreams. Since my husband passed almost 7 years ago I am even more thankful than ever that God put a hedge of protection around me and with His help I was able to bypass the pitfalls. This makes me no better than anyone else because Satan finds other ways to temp each of us if we are trying to please God. Satan does not like that. Someone told me one time, "If Satan is leaving you alone you are not trying to live close to God. Satan already has you so why should he bother with you when he has others to work on."<br />It would be wonderful to receive either of your books. If I didn't keep it for myself, I know our church library could benefit from it. Fannie in Kansas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-35887774453370113992011-06-07T23:51:39.820-04:002011-06-07T23:51:39.820-04:00I have been there too. My boss decided to share h...I have been there too. My boss decided to share his marital problems with me back in 2006 - what lay ahead would become the biggest 2 year battle of my marital life. It was timely of the enemy to bring this before me -& a huge awakening to me at the doors we open to this weazel & his demons. It started with my boss ever so gently telling me how his wife does not love him anymore. He would leave a flower or fruit on my desk at work & try and woo me with very flattering words of emotional & financial stability & encourage me to go and have some fun - even to the point of taking me to lunches fully paid & showering me with gifts. He said all the right things at this stage in my life. I was not receiving from my husband all the things I so longed for as a wife or dreamed of - to feel like his princess and to feel that I was the only one in his life besides Jesus. My husband just didn't get it! I began to slowly buy into the lie that was being played & began to share all my most personal problems also - then it happened...'we clicked' and locked eyes - I KNEW it was wrong, I knew it was sin, I knew the temptation before me was almost unbearable to resist - my boss was a attractive man - the grass sure did seem greenest on the other side! I was on cloud 9 each day, getting up earlier for work. There is not enough room on this page to fill you in on all the pieces of this ugly dilemma, but I think I probably need not elaborate anyway. So, a long long story short I sought the help of some Godley women at church, trustworthy & gifted in intercession - to pray for me, to come against these demonic forces -To sever (cut the ties) that this man had to my heart. It was a stronghold indeed. I thought I would never break free of the temptation even imagining a different life...I even stopped going to church in this time..how could I? How could I worship with my arms raised to the Lord, knowing full well the sin I was caught up in? The first day back at church for me was the hardest. I was so ashamed. Tears began to flow freely as I walked toward the front door..I stopped, unable to go in..."Jesus..How can I come in now? I am not worthy" It was then I heard the audible voice of The Prince of Peace: "Come...Come Daughter...Come as you are"...as He said this to me..my heart began to melt again...I felt forgiveness and oh, the beautiful voice of Jesus, 'Wooing me back' to Him. How deceived I was...and it opened up my eyes to my bosses lack of integrity. You see..this is not the first time he has done this. During the 2 year emotional affair, he admitted to having a 'full blown' affair with a previous work colleague of his! It was then the Lord spoke to me loudly: "He is not good for you - can't you see that - I have given you your husband. This is breaking my Heart"..I heard the Lord speak. THANK YOU JESUS for opening my eyes to this sin and deception. I finally put a stop to it and he did not like it one bit - but I knew God would give me favour if I submitted to Him and got down on my knees - I repented of my involvement and knew that the Lord would help me over come! I am praying for his salvation today & he himself will come to know Jesus in a very real & personal way.. I have learned, that the more I LOVE JESUS, the more I will Love my Husband.....<br />Please, if you are involved in an emotional affair - you know in the depths of your heart it is wrong..surround yourself with Godly women that will help you stay accountable and pray for strength to get out and give your heart back to the Lord...<br />In His LoveBellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-47126606944337416632011-06-07T21:45:16.435-04:002011-06-07T21:45:16.435-04:00Thank you for reminding me how sacred my marriage ...Thank you for reminding me how sacred my marriage is. I am reminded of the importance of investing in it daily and realizing satan is out to destroy my relationship. We must guard our hearts at ALL times!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-32690953247136797672011-06-07T21:24:35.179-04:002011-06-07T21:24:35.179-04:00I was so convicted today when I read todays topic ...I was so convicted today when I read todays topic on emotional affairs. I am also here to admit I myself have fallen into the trap but did not stop there & continued until it became physical. I have tried to cut this person out of my life but then I find an excuse to contact him again. He is not a true believer & also married but does not agree with me on how sinful this is. I truly thought I was in a satisfying marriage but clearly Im not. We have been married for 10 years & have 2 small kids. I never expected to be here living this horrible sin. I can barely face my family out of shame & guilt. What kind of person have I become? Definitely no one I thought I would be. I have recently stopped all contact & I am praying constantly, reading Gods word & asking God for forgiveness & strength to get through this. Any advice would be greatly needed & appreciated. Also prayers to help keep me away from this person & put my energy into my husband & my marriage. Thank you for giving me this opportunity to confess this. It has helped a great deal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-8252337038061019932011-06-07T21:07:37.064-04:002011-06-07T21:07:37.064-04:00Carrie, I know what you mean, I didn't know wh...Carrie, I know what you mean, I didn't know what I wanted from my husband but I knew I wasn't happy. Cheating was not what I wanted to do, it just happened. And days following it there were talk shows that were all about cheatin wives. After about the third time, I confessed to my husband asking for forgiveness. I chose my husband for the wrong reasons. I was trying to get away from an abusive mother.Connecting to the soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17880943173532146894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6451874990236641064.post-62518529298857753532011-06-07T20:54:25.176-04:002011-06-07T20:54:25.176-04:00You really hit home today, Rachel.
Happens more t...You really hit home today, Rachel.<br /><br />Happens more times than we can count.<br /><br />I'd love to win your book.Jagettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04845718425042661467noreply@blogger.com