Sad news requires a mop

Hey Friends.  Thanks to everyone who participated in this month's devotional carnival - there are some powerful stories and truths in those posts!  And I, for one, needed to read them this week.

This week I am on a self-imposed writing retreat, planning for my next book. I'm spending the entire week alone, out-of-town where I don't know a soul. And last night, as I sat by myself in a Mexican restaurant eating a taco salad while reading a book I'd brought along for research, I got news that my grandmother has just been diagnosed with an aggressive form of cancer. So it helped me to read some of your posts last night. To let my sisters in Christ speak the truth of God's stability into my soul.

It was also great fun reading what each of you obsess over keeping perfect!  I say that in the nicest possible way of course. It fascinates me how the human mind wants to have a sense of control ... and how it will zero in on certain things and exercise extreme power over that one thing just to feel that sense of control. The timeshare I'm staying in this week has no mop that I can find. What's one supposed to do when one gets news that her grandmother has a deadly illness, and she can't mop?! (see this post for context)  Good thing I brought my red toenail polish along.

Now for the announcement of this month's carnival winner.

True Random Number Generator Result from www.random.org = 4  That means Heather Deaton, you've won the new Francine Rivers novel! Send your address to me at rachel@proverbs31.org. But be patient as I won't be able to mail it out until I get home next week. And I'll have to mop my floor first thing when I get back ...

Thankful my stability isn't dependent on my own ability to control things.

Devotional Carnival - Stability

It's devotional carnival time again! Which means I get to come read your thoughts, insights and prayers at your blog.

This month's topic is slightly off the beaten path. But it's one of the things I was speaking on last week (see the last post, and do tell what you have to keep perfect). It's STABILITY. Think about it ... God is certainly stable, and therefore, consistently following Him should bring some measure of stability to our lives. Right? No? What are your thoughts on or experiences with this? What does scripture say?

Just yesterday I read this quote by Lauren Winner, author of Girl Meets God, "Stability may be the virtue that 21st-century Christians most ignore - and the virture we are most called to embrace." Imagine if we had more stability in our faith, in our marriages, in our churches, in our friendships, in our ...

I chose this topic last month and preannounced it so maybe you've already been thinking about it. If not, don't worry, you're going to have extra time this month to write and link your devotion. I'll be on the road most of the day on Monday, headed to Williamsburg, VA. And my day on Tuesday is full. So you'll have until midnight on Wednesday to join in the carnival here. On Thursday I'll draw a winner for the novel.

What novel you ask? This month's She Reads pick ... one of the hottest books on the Christian fiction market this month. A massive novel at nearly 500 pages, plus group discussion guide. It's Francine River's latest release: Her Mother's Hope. And it's a $25 value. It's yours if you link your devotion here by the end of Wednesday, post a comment below, and I randomly select your comment to win.

Some quick instructions: Write anything you want touching on stability, but be sure to include a key verse, keep it under 700 words, and mention you’re participating in this carnival. Then leave a comment answering the question I posed in my previous post – What in your life or house “has” to be perfect?

What has to be perfect?

Last night I spoke to a group of homeschooling moms on one of the topics from my upcoming book It's No Secret.  This new session is called "Adjust Your Scale" and it deals with women's tendencies toward perfectionism. And our need to grant and accept grace. (You can relate, right?)

This was the first time I've given this message so my excitement was tinged with uncertainty. Will they laugh at the parts I think are funny? Will they take notes on the parts I think are vital?  Will they remember the bottom line 2 days from now?

It seemed to go well. Being teacher-types, they were excellent listeners. And very engaged in the group discussion time as well.  Plus, most the women were still there 30 minutes after the official ending time of 9:00 PM so they were clearly enjoying the chance to connect and get real with like-minded moms.  That was so great to see.

After giving a new message, I go back and tweak it based on how it went over and any feedback I receive from the audience afterward.  So that's on my to-do list this week.  I know you weren't there to hear it, but I'd love for you to share with me what areas of life you struggle the most with perfectionism. Maybe I can address some of those the next time I give this message, or incorporate more examples in my talk.

So all you perfectionistic types – please, do spill the beans on what you obsess about. What has to be perfect?

Are you an overall perfectionist, or do you have specific things you're obsessive about? Like, I wonder if you have a certain thing that if you can just keep that part perfect, you feel a sense of control despite the rest of the chaos. For me, it's a clean kitchen floor.  I have to have a clean kitchen floor.  I usually sweep it twice a day and mop it twice a week.  The rest of the house can be falling apart but as long as the kitchen floor is clean, I can feel sane. Well, that and my toenails. I have to keep my toenails painted too, with no chipping ...

PS. You do know that being perfectionistic doesn't mean you do things perfectly, right?  Only that you realllllly want to do things perfectly. And you get quite irritable when it's not perfect.  And sometimes you don't do them at all if you think it won't be perfect. Sound at all familiar?

Super thankful for God’s mercy and grace.

Mother's Day

A new month is here - I can hardly believe it's May already.

My husband asked me last week what I wanted for a Mother's Day gift. He and the kids usually present me with a personally-picked-out-but-poorly-wrapped gift on Mother's Day.  Last year they bought me a super cute purse and placed a new pair of earrings and a Starbucks gift card inside.

Yep, they're keepers.

At first I said I thought I wanted the Zoku pop maker. I'd been oogling it for months in Williams & Sonoma, along with the yummy looking recipe book. But the next day I retracted that request because it's rather expensive (even if I were to justify it as a Mother's Day present that would really be for the whole family). Plus it only makes three pops at a time - we're a family of four.

I could always say flowers, but Rick just surprised me with a beautiful lily plant the other weekend. For no reason at all except he saw them while at Home Depot and wanted to bring one to me! It made the house smell amazing.

Then I thought maybe I wanted a professional massage from Massage Envy for Mother's Day.  Only, the last one I had there wasn't great.  That was over a year ago but I still remember laying down on the table anticipating bliss, only to spend the next 40 minutes underwhelmed.  I know what you're thinking, any massage is better than no massage, Rachel. But I decided "not so" when I've just spent a chunk of change on it (about enough to buy a Zoku pop maker ). Maybe it was just that masseuse.

So I still don't know what ideas to give Rick for Mother's Day. Or, what I'll do for my mother-in-law. What's on your Mother's Day wish list? What are you planning for your mom? I could use some inspiration here.  Do tell if you've got some really great honoring mom ideas. 

Maybe we'll do a low key Mother's Day this year.  Perhaps on Sunday I'll just lay down on the carpet, and have my kids walk on my back for a massage.  And I can stick popsicle sticks in some yogurt cups the night before and freeze them for homemade Zoku pops. Then we can sit down for a meal together with the lily as our centerpiece. Honestly, that would suit me just fine. 

Well, that and maybe a pedicure ...

UPDATE: They surprised me with a big urn on the back patio they filled with herbs - sweet basil, stevia, flat parsley, and lemon thyme.  Alaina gave me a homemade coupon for a 20 minute back-rub.  And Caleb, my youngest, gave me a homemade coupon for "Anything you want." That made me giggle. Rick took me out to  lunch and then sent me to Barnes & Noble for 2 hours by mysef and permission to buy a new book. (smiles)

Thankful for my family.