Here's what I can tell you:
To change your life, the first thing you are going to have to change is what you focus on.
Read that sentence again.
You need to look at things differently in order to change. For example, will you focus on Christ, or on your circumstances?
Will you focus on what you can control or what you can't control?
(PS. You are the only thing you can control.)
What, or who, are you made for?
Questions, by the way, lead us to focus. Want to change your focus? Change the questions you ask.
Change the Questions You Ask Yourself
Rather than asking, "Why is this happening to me?" ask, "What can I do in this situation to affect myself, others or the outcome for the better?" Rather than asking, "Why can't I ever lose weight?" ask, "What small, doable choice can I make today - right now - to position myself for weight loss?"
Your brain will answer the questions you ask it. If you ask it why you can't loose weight, or why you are so disorganized, it will give you an answer. And that answer will sound convincing! It will say, "Because I love food too much." Or, "I've always been messy - I just can't help it."
But if you ask your brain what you can do right now to move forward towards your goal, it will answer you: "I can put down these chips and drink a glass of water," or, "I can sort through that stack of stuff piled on my desk."
Change your questions in order to change your answers, so you can shift your focus.
Focus = Direction. What we see - where we look, or what we focus on - determines the direction we will go. So what is it you tend to focus on? Want to change? Start there.
PSS. Check out my last 3 posts on learning to like tasks you hate.