Aside from that little exercise in cognitive dissonance, I’m OK with it.A couple years ago I made a new friend. She is ahead of me in life. She moved to my town having just retired (from some really cool jobs like being head honcho at a little television station called the Food Network. Oh and also the one that starts with an H and ends with a V). I must say, God gives me spectacular friends.
|wish my nails looked this good|
When I told her 40 was approaching on my horizon, she insisted my 40’s would be my absolute best decade. I had my reasons for doubting her – my hips and thighs namely. But I decided to listen and trust what she had to say. Because I’ve discovered that wisdom truly does come with age.
Let me pause here and be clear, you can age without gaining much wisdom. It happens to some, and I think that’s a bona fide shame. It’s equally true you don’t have to live through a multitude of decades to gain wisdom. It’s there for the asking. Free for the seeking according to the Bible.
“If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” James 1:5
“Come and listen to my counsel. I’ll share my heart with you, and make you wise.” Prov. 1:23
But age – or more accurately, TIME and EXPERIENCE – affords us perspective we don’t have when we’re young. And perspective lives right next door to wisdom.A few months ago, Sarah Martin at She Seeks asked me to share a piece of advice with the twenty-something set that frequents their blog. In writing that post, I realized how time and experience brings perspective, and perspective, wisdom. Hop over there if you want to read what I wrote.
Back to my wise friend who worked in TV. (I warned you this post would be rather stream of consciousness.) She told me that in your 40’s you shed a lot of the self-consciousness and doubt that tends to plague us in our 30s. She said our careers hit full stride in our 40’s. And we become more comfortable in our bodies – even though they don’t look like they did in our 20’s – and with our decisions. We embrace our strengths more and worry less about our supposed weaknesses (those things God or life didn’t afford us).That sounds really good to me. So I’m choosing to embrace my age. I will welcome my 40’s. And my 50’s. And my 60’s. And my 70’s. And my 80’s should God allow me to live that long.
I don’t know where on the timeline you are, but I encourage you to embrace it, whatever number it is. Celebrate your years of life and the wisdom they bring. And share your wisdom with others.
It’s a gift.
“Gray hair is like a crown of glory; it is attained in the path of righteousness.” Prov 16:31
Are you dreading or embracing aging?